A Different but Fulfilling Approach To Achievement…
We talk a lot about goals here at London Real.
We tell you to write your goals down, commit to them, get up early for them, sacrifice for them, and so on.
We mention setting achievable goals that will help you accomplish achieve your main objectives and big goals that will help you get the glory you’re looking for.
We even cheer you on by telling you how fantastic you’ll feel when you achieve those goals
Personally, I love having goals because the feeling that comes with accomplishing my goals pulls me along through my life every day.
So when I sat down with Dylan Werner, and heard that his take on the topic is, “Goals are nothing”, I was a bit taken aback.
Life without goals?
Is that even possible?
Is it healthy?
Dylan certainly thinks so. In fact, he believes thinks ditching the concept of goals entirely is the best path to a fulfilled life.
This was surprising. See, Dylan Werner is world famous and well respected in his field.
Who is Dylan Werner?
In years past, Dylan was a U.S. Marine Corps firefighter and wrestler. Now, he’s a world-famous yoga instructor.
After serving a tour in Iraq, he spent eight years working as a paramedic and firefighter. He trained in martial arts for a while, then turned his focus to yoga. There was no turning back at that point. He decided he wanted to dedicate his life to the practice of yoga.
Now, he’s given more than 400 workshops in over 60 countries around the world and taught at some of the most prestigious yoga studios. He inspires millions of people – yogis and non-yogis alike – via his social media channels.
And you don’t get to that position in life without setting – and then smashing – a few goals, right?
Apparently, for Dylan, that is not the case.
I asked him to explain further, so he shared this take.
Really? No Goals?
Dylan believes that goals aren’t real or tangible. They’re not useful or beneficial because they’re too far in the future.
He went on to explain that setting the goal isn’t motivation, it’s a distraction. Even if you succeed with that goal, you’ll just set another one and create another distraction.
When I heard his perspective, I understood. I surprised myself because I even agreed.
Not because I want to rid myself of goals, but because there are some inherent flaws with the concept of goal setting itself.
So many people wake up on December 31 and think about all the things they could start doing differently the next day.
The bad news is there’s no magic that happens when the ball drops, and instead of feeling pleasantly motivated, they’re disillusioned and depressed.
So they stay in bed and sleep in and tell themselves they’ll work towards those goals on another day.
Jack Kornfield said it best in his book “Buddha’s Little Instruction Book”…
The trouble is, you think you have time.
And that’s what’s wrong with the whole goal-setting system.
Instead of setting long term goals of where you want to be in 5, 10, or 20 years, what would it look like if your only aim was to be your best self every day?
What could your life look like, and, perhaps more importantly, how would you feel if that was how you lived your life?
Would your relationships flourish? Probably.
Would you make progress with your career? Almost certainly.
Would your health improve both physically and mentally? It’s practically guaranteed.
Steps to Live Your Best Every Single Day
If you’d like to try this new approach, rather than setting a long list of goals, try these simple steps.
First, acknowledge that you have to grow or die. Instead of creating a goal, setting it aside, and saying, “That’s a great goal, I’ll work on it tomorrow” you must grow continuously. You’ll achieve naturally if you set your focus that way.
Of course everyone wants to grow. No one wants to die, right? Constant self-improvement helps us grow, it helps us live a worthwhile life, and it helps humanity as a whole.
Next, find balance between feeling contentment with who you are and giving life your all anyway. In yoga, these concepts are called santosha and tapas, respectively.
Santosha is the inner peace we find from realizing that everything we have and are is enough. It is perfect contentment and satisfaction. Tapas means to burn. Tapas is the fiery discipline and passion that pushes us to be a better person.
How do we find balance between tapas and santosha? After all, when we’re at our best, we find a way to embody both of these qualities.
Well, finding a perfect balance is not easy, but that’s why it’s called a practice.
When you feel yourself going out of whack, check in mentally and ask yourself, “Is my ambition getting in the way of feeling pleased with my life?”
And if you notice you’ve been slacking in areas of your life, ask yourself, “Have I grown too complacent? Is it time to try harder?”
Finally, focus on giving instead of taking. When you give more than you take, you’ll enrich the lives of others. That’s when you really start living. After all, life isn’t worth living without the company of others. It’s when you give that you really begin to feel alive.
The best thing you could possibly do in life is to find that balance between contentment with yourself while still striving to do better. From investment bankers to yogis, from stay at home parents to executives, we could all stand to learn this.
If goal setting has never resonated with you in the past, or you’ve found it hard to be happy with where you are, consider this approach instead.
See you tomorrow,
Editor, Brian Rose Uncensored