Can YOU Reach Your Maximum Potential?
When people are down and struggling, the first thing most do is point to the external factors that got them there.
They feel bad…
Their job is boring and their boss is a jerk.
Their wife isn’t paying them enough attention.
Their kids are annoying them when they’re trying to get things done.
Whatever the reason, they point to that external source and get angry and frustrated. Then they feel righteous in that anger, but they don’t change their situation. After all, if your struggles are caused by something outside of you, you can’t very well change it, can you?
The bad news is that creates a self-perpetuating cycle. Feeling anger at a situation without doing anything to change it means you’re only setting yourself up to experience the same disappointment and anger again in the very near future.
Here’s the good news – you can change what angers you. Even better, the frustration you feel may not be an external struggle at all.
It might be something within you. Your turmoil very well could be caused by the clash between you…
And your ego.
Now, the ego is a thing most people don’t understand very well. They think having an ego means acting arrogant or conceited, but that’s not what it really means at all.
Your ego is a fundamental part of your personality.
Freud said the ego is the part of you that mediates between your id (which is the untamed, disorganized side of us that contains our basic needs and desires) and the reality of the outside world.
Jung said the first half of life is devoted towards forming a healthy ego, and the second half is going inward and letting go of it.
Elliot Hulse, the same man who discussed being an Alpha and a leader in yesterday’s Uncensored issue, said the ego is the interface by which we interact with the world. Without an ego, we’d dissolve.
And all of these things are true. An ego is a good and necessary thing, but it can also get in our way…
Don’t Let Your Ego Be Your Controller
Think of all the strange or bad things you’ve done in the name of saving face – those were a case of your ego doing the talking for you.
Because it wants to maintain itself at all costs, ego can make you do some embarrassing or unhealthy things. But that doesn’t mean it’s all bad. Finding yourself making strange choices can be one of the most reliable indicators that it’s time for you to grow.
When you’re at a crossroads in life and you feel discomfort and frustration, it usually means there’s a disconnect between where you are and where you need to be.
When you feel depressed and discontented at work, or when you find yourself engaging in risky behavior socially, or when you get so frustrated you literally want to die, that’s the ego crying out and letting you know it’s time to change to fit who you will be in your new season in life.
You’re depressed and discontented because it’s time for you to create a change for yourself.
You engage in risky social behavior because you’re bored by your current situation and your ego is crying out for development.
You feel like your life is hopeless because you’re done with this set of circumstances and it’s time for you to create your own next level.
Let me be very clear here – you should NEVER entertain thoughts of killing yourself…
But you can and should kill off the old version of your ego to prepare yourself for new growth.
It’s Time to Shed Away Your Old Self
Growth is painful and change can be hard. You need to realize that shedding your old self (old ego) and forming a new one, is a natural part of the process. You’ll then realize the struggle is worth it.
Throughout your life, you’ll experience this death and rebirth cycle many times over. In fact, you’ve already completed the cycle several times.
Think of this – you used to be a baby.
Then you were a young child.
Then you were a student.
When your student days were over, you had to find your way as an adult, a worker, a competent member of society. Maybe you had to fit into a new identity as a parent, and maybe you’re adjusting to a new life as a retiree.
All of those – from the baby to the student to the adult – these were all versions of you. And each growth process involved shedding parts of the last version.
You can’t escape this process, but you can lessen the frustrations you feel when you accept that it’s natural, necessary, and temporary.
The next time you feel the extreme frustrations of life weighing on you, ask yourself – is this really an external circumstance weighing me down?
Or is it a message that it’s time for me to change and grow, and shed the old, lesser version of me so I can become a new and improved version?
Once you’ve taken stock of the situation, you can dig deep and find solutions for yourself.
Maybe you’re being called to educate yourself more.
Maybe it’s time to practice meditation or another method of remaining calm.
Maybe it’s time to let loose and do all the things you’ve wanted to do that your ego wouldn’t allow you to engage in up to this point.
Whatever it is that’s frustrating you can be changed by you – and it’s usually done simply by looking within and changing yourself.
When you accept these changes, life seems to go much more smoothly. Transformation may not be tangible, but it’s the only real and constant part of life.
It’s All About Your Potential
Who could you be in 2020 and beyond if you allow your old ego to die off? Who do you want to become? If you want to make any change in your life, recognize the need for change, and then allow yourself to do the work to get there.
Editor, Brian Rose Uncensored