Do This One Thing To Get Results Faster…
Do you want a natural advantage that will help you build your endurance, grow your influence, and increase your net worth – all without putting in any extraordinary effort of your own?
I mean, who wouldn’t, right?
Why wouldn’t you want to reap the benefits that allow you to meet the right people, make the right connections, and reach your goals faster than you ever thought possible?
If all this sounds pretty good to you, the only resource you need to take stock of is…
Your group of friends.
Yes, the right friends and acquaintances are a huge component in the recipe for success.
It’s a fact. If you want to train for a marathon, further your career, or even make a fortune, you can get to your goals a lot faster with your friends.
That’s IF you’ve got the right friends, of course.
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “Your network is your net worth”, and though that sounds simple, when it comes to succeeding in just about any arena, it’s true.
Think of it this way. We all had that one kinda wild friend when we were twelve or thirteen, right?
You know the one. I’m talking about that kid whose parental supervision was limited at best, and when you went over to his house, you basically had carte blanche to do whatever you wanted. You could watch whatever you wanted on TV and play all day. Heck, you could stay up as late as you wanted, and when it came time to eat, you could raid the pantry and have an entire box of PopTarts for dinner if you liked.
No matter how straight-laced you were at home, when you went over to that kid’s house, you lived like he did. Instead of early bedtimes and broccoli, it was partying all night and Cheetos.
That’s not to say this friend was a bad kid or that you were necessarily wrong for giving in to the temptation to live like this. On the contrary, it’s human nature.
When your peers act a certain way, it’s pretty easy to find yourself living down to that standard.
If you’re a teen (or a parent of a teen!), this can be really disheartening.
The good news, however, is that it’s just as easy to live UP to a standard instead.
Surrounding Yourself With Positive People
If you surround yourself with the right people, you automatically recalibrate your behavior. Instead of living at your current base level, you start doing things to align you with their standards of behavior.
If all your friends are marathon runners, it’s pretty hard to sit around eating chips and watching television when they’re around. In fact, if they’re really serious about their fitness, they might be the ones to stop hanging around you!
If all of your friends are really focused and putting in the effort to achieve the next level of their careers, and you’ve stagnated in yours, that, too, will be really uncomfortable.
And finally, if you’re living paycheck to paycheck with no hope of making more, your friends will begin to treat you differently once they’re hitting big financial goals.
This all sounds kind of depressing…
Until you realize you can use this to your advantage.
Once you realize that friends can motivate you just by being in their presence, you’ll know exactly who you should spend less time around… and who you should turn to when you need a little push.
It’s like using peer pressure – but in a good way.
If you’re thinking about your friend group right now, and you’re not sure if you’re surrounded by good influences or bad, here’s a simple exercise you can complete to find out.
One, list your current top three goals. Let’s say they’re to make more money, to finally get a six pack, and to drive a gorgeous sports car.
Once you’ve done that, look at the five people you call most, text most, and spend time with most.
They say you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time around, so ask yourself…
Do any of these guys make six or seven figures?
Do they make fitness a priority?
What kind of cars do they drive on a daily basis?
If they’re unmotivated, unsuccessful, and unlikely to change, then it’s no wonder you’re struggling to reach your goals.
Again, this is nature at work. It’s crab-in-a-bucket syndrome. If you’ve ever seen a bucket of crabs, you can actually watch this phenomenon happen. When one crab works hard to escape, instead of being inspired and following suit, the other crabs pull him back down. This happens in the animal kingdom and in real life – every day.
When you’ve identified the people who are keeping you trapped in your current circumstances – your bucket, if you will – it’s time to let them go.
The Billion Dollar Man
Dan Pena, the billion dollar man, has an extreme way of dealing with this.
Rather than letting your less-goal-oriented friends drag you back down every time you spend time with them, he recommends you cut them off entirely. In fact, he’s gone so far as to tell his students to change their phone numbers and only give the new numbers to people who support you and can help you achieve your goals.
I know, I know, that seems like a harsh break, but you know what? It works.
When you’ve left behind the people who keep you in your old life, the next step is to align yourself with people you admire. Look for friends and acquaintances who are vibrant, active, successful, and wealthy, and next thing you know, you’ll be taking the steps to achieve those things, too.
The weird thing about it is it won’t even feel like a stretch for you. If your new pal Bill goes to lift weights six days a week, you’ll be almost compelled to add a workout or two to your week. If Jeff successfully asked his boss for a raise, it’ll feel achievable for you, too.
Next thing you know, you’ll have reached your goals – and it won’t even have felt like work.
If you adjust your social circle, your goals and achievements will change accordingly.
Editor, Brian Rose Uncensored