The Alter Ego Effect
Have you ever used an alter ego? Like maybe some days you’re Clark Kent, but then you turn into Superman to get something done! If this is true for you then you will love my recent guest Todd Herman who claims that if you can channel multiple alter egos then we can be in certain states in various situations.
Todd is an American author, speaker, and performance coach to Olympic athletes, corporate CEOs, and billionaires. He has logged over 15,000 hours working one-on-one with clients, and has been featured on The Today Show, Sky News, and CBS.
Todd Herman has been incredibly successful at helping ambitious people do hard things. Over the years he’s helped thousands of people achieve their goals by teaching them to become more resilient, creative, confident, and courageous.
Todd knows the mental performance game better than anyone. His execution in mindset strategies and systems are used by businesses, entrepreneurs, entertainers, and athletes around the world.
His latest book The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform Your Life is a Wall Street Journal bestseller, that teaches people how to activate their heroic self to achieve high performance. I have been so inspired by Todd that I have adopted his alter ego methodology at the London Real Academy and I now have my students channel an alter ego when they begin their course – the results have been incredible!
I really appreciate how open and honest Todd is. We went deep on what happened to him during his childhood, the traumatic experiences he’s had to work through, and what it was like battling with depression as a young person.
Today I wanted to focus on Todd’s journey and how he was able to begin to talk about his abuse, how he was able to process what he’s been through, and what lessons he learned from this process.
Coming to Terms with Trauma
Todd notes that he waited, “way longer than I should have” to begin to deal with the abuse he suffered. He describes himself as an extroverted kid who grew up on a farm ranch in the middle of nowhere. He wanted to get into the city anytime he could, so during the summers he went to multiple church camps.
At one of the camps, he was singled out by two men who proceeded to sexually assault him. He came home from the camp and attempted to drown himself in his family’s pool. He was only 12 years old. He didn’t want anyone to find out what happened to him and he felt this was his only escape.
He held onto what happened to him his whole life because he had so much shame and lack of self worth. It wasn’t until September 2017 that he finally broke down and told a friend and then his wife.
In the months leading up to him finally being able to talk about his abuse Todd began to see the effect that holding everything in was having on his family. He had a newborn boy, a home, dealing with the aftermath of his wife’s difficult pregnancy, was overwhelmed by work, and also had his two daughters to take care of.
He told me one day after picking his girls up, his four year old asked him if he was happy. He responded that he was and asked why she would say that? She responded by telling him that he had been yelling a lot and it was “making her sad.” He broke down in tears and realized at that moment that he would not give his kids second hand trauma.
Todd was transmuting all the pain inside him getting angry because he was getting triggered. He started by trying to deal with the trauma on his own and through therapy. He felt completely fried and knew he needed to talk to loved ones.
After finally opening up to his wife there was a new understanding between them. She was finally able to understand Todd on a deeper level.
Todd then got involved with the largest study on the use of MDMA with people experiencing PTSD and trauma. The study was done at Belleville Hospital in conjunction with the Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies (MAPS) and NYU.
The MAPS Institute has been one of the leading forces in getting plant-based medicine into people’s hands.
MDMA Therapy has two parts – one of which is therapy while on MDMA and the other is “quiet therapy” where therapists sit with you just while going through the experience of being on MDMA.
In Todd’s therapy, he only experienced the “quiet therapy” part. He was free to speak when he wanted, but he didn’t have to. The first time he did the therapy was the first time in his life he felt deep levels of self love. It was such a phenomenal anchoring point for Todd because he then knew going forward with the rest of his day that no matter what happened he had that self love to return to.
Todd’s caveat with all of this is that although there is a lot of research to back up what he is saying, Todd is not prescribing this to anyone.
His experience with MDMA allowed him to untethered from all of the wires that are connected to his trauma. Without this therapy, he would never have been able to talk about his experience in public and help others who are going through the same thing.
He also wants to note that trauma and PTSD are different from depression. The MDMA was incredibly successful in helping Todd deal with the trauma side of his experiences; however, he maintains that it is important to continue to seek other types of treatments for depression.
Todd believes it’s incredibly important for individuals to do their homework when considering MDMA therapy. He wants a, “mentally and psychologically responsible group of people” to approach this type of therapy.
However you choose to treat your trauma or depression make sure you always do your research and go in with an open mind. There is no “one cure fits all,” but remember that help is out there if you are willing to seek that help.
Editor, Brian Rose Uncensored